Help for synastry

[Scorpgirl222]

Hello everyone

I need your help, I know I'm not very present on the forum but maybe you can enlighten me anyway...

I met someone a few weeks ago in a new job in a new region after a reset of my life.
The problem is that he's married, and obviously I don't want to get in the way. Physically, he's not my style at all, but we get on really well to the point where we don't really want to go home and leave each other.

I don't trust myself too much when it comes to my love choices, and I still don't know if it's a real attraction or if it's because I need some attention (if I can put it that way, I'm just insecure...).
Because given what's at stake, I don't want to stir up trouble for nothing... However, I feel a bit of a crush on both sides

I have the impression that our synastry is not bad at all... What do you think? Are there any elements that could help me take a step back and not rush headlong into a mess? Or elements that would support the fact that it's going to be a nightmare for me, for us? Thanks in advance for anything you can give me.

He was born July 2nd 1989 in Paris at 8:30 pm
Me : June 28th 1996 in Nanterre (France) at 5:25 pm

Thanks a lot

[admin]

Hi Scorpiogirl222,

I'll look at all of this and get back to you within the next day or two when I've gone through it.

Best,
Admin.

[admin]

Hi Scorpiogirl,

Yes, there are some very good aspects between your charts and some very powerful links there too, which you're clearly feeling very strongly.

I assume that you noted his Pluto conjunct your Asc. square his Mars ? Yes, his Mars is sextile your Mars/Venus, and your Sun (conj. his Sun and Moon) is trine his Pluto, and your Saturn is trine is Venus/Mars...but, Pluto Asc. can give a powerful obsession of course, while the Mars square is not particularly "healthy" as it can add negative energy. The fact that he's married too is to be taken into serious consideration.

In the Composite chart, Mars/Sun/Venus are conjunct in the 8th, bringing in another "Plutonic" feeling to the relationship, especially with Comp. Pluto in the 12th suggesting underlying elements that you're not aware of.

I'd suggest that you need to be very careful of pursuing this as you may be taking on more than you realise.
Of course I understand that it's difficult for you to just walk away given the strength of the feelings you have but, just tread this path with great caution.

I will add that you can learn much from this attraction with regard to your own emotions and needs, especially as you are coming to your "Saturn Return". This we all experience around the age of 29/30 and it's a major growth period where we all - basically - become more individual and less influenced by our parents and peers.
(You can look up the meaning of this Saturn Return online, and I suggest you do this as it may help).

Do let me know how you go with this relationship, if you wish to of course.

Best,
Admin.

[Scorpgirl222]

Hello Admin,

Thank you again for your time. I agree with you, I think it's wiser not to do anything.
I will focus on myself and that will be fine !

Have a nice day !

[Scorpgirl222]

Hi admin,

I just learnt that he's not married.... I thought so, I don't know why, but he told me he was about to, but she cheated on him.

My ex boyfriend was born the 30th of June in 1989 so a few days before my "crush"

And I know very well the mars-pluton square. IT'S A HELL
Still, I believe in my intuition, and the fact that people can use their energies as they wish. Am i Silly ?

Besides, the pluton conjunct ascendant, happens really often for me, or the people who were born a few years from me. So I feel like I can't escape it. If it's not their pluton conjunct my ascendant, it's their pluton conjunct my moon should I give up on love ? Or on love with people my decade ?

[admin]

Hi Scorpiogirl222,

Yes, re the Pluto in Scorpio generation, many of whom would have their Pluto's so often conjunct your Scorp Asc. However, in the previous relationships you had asked about, neither had Pluto so close to your Asc., and one had Pluto in Sag. conjunct your own Pluto Rising in the First House. (I do note that the first one with Pluto in Scorp. also had Mars square your Asc. but, that square didn't involve his Pluto).

Re your (other) ex, well...yes, same Mars sq. Pluto conj. your Asc.
So, clearly you are in some way repeating this particular pattern, and the question now is of course..."Why?".

Nonetheless, if you feel your intuition is right, then of course you must follow that.
And Yes, "people can use their energies as they wish"...as long as "they"/we, are prepared for the consequences.
So...do what you feel is right for you !
And certainly Do Not "give up on love" !

(As I was going through your chart I started to look at your Progressed and Solar Return charts.
Have written quite a lot on this for you and will send it to you by PM ...if - and only if - you would like me to do so).

Best,
Admin.

[Scorpgirl222]

Admin,

You are right to remind me that. And yes this is a pattern I often meet, I don't know why... I feel like I don't really choose m'y relationships, it just happens as if it was just fated

Of course you can send me your notes

Thanks again,