Bad relationship with father,dissapointment.
Bad relationship with father,dissapointment.
Hello,i want some help to get a chart about my bad relationship with father,his birth time is uknown.
Re: Bad relationship with father,dissapointment.
Hi Sijju,
You had given me his birth data previously (and which we had discussed briefly) and you had said that he was born at 7:00 am.
Is that correct ?
Admin.
You had given me his birth data previously (and which we had discussed briefly) and you had said that he was born at 7:00 am.
Is that correct ?
Admin.
"Don't let the illusions of your past or future rob you of the infiniteness of your present." [Unknown]
Re: Bad relationship with father,dissapointment.
Can we achieve anything without the birth time? 
Re: Bad relationship with father,dissapointment.
Hi Siiju,
Yes, we can, but it will be incomplete/basic.
I will look at this without his time of birth and get back to you.
Best,
Admin.
Yes, we can, but it will be incomplete/basic.
I will look at this without his time of birth and get back to you.
Best,
Admin.
"Don't let the illusions of your past or future rob you of the infiniteness of your present." [Unknown]
Re: Bad relationship with father,dissapointment.
Hi Siiju,
You may be surprised to learn that this could be a good relationship but, only if you are able to accept each other's differences - which clearly isn't possible for either of you. He finds it hard to understand you and your needs and tries to change you to fit his own views. As soon as you show any signs of disagreeing with him it threatens his confidence and so he takes a superior attitude towards you, which then undermines your purpose and pushes you to rebel against anything he may say regardless of whether it could be helpful to you in some way.
This, in turn, results in misunderstandings and angry responses that escalate - perhaps because at least you keep going in order to have the last word in any argument. You both find it hard to recognise the depth of each other's different emotional problems, and as a result of all of this, you may tend to blame each other for the problems in your own lives, especially as long as you live in the same home.
This all makes it hard to take advantage of any of the positive benefits that either of you can bring to the relationship. For e.g., if you were able to find some common interest, this would go a long way to healing the ever-widening rift. Certainly it would help if you could encourage him in any of his own interests as you could give him enthusiastic support in such areas that would help to soften the hard edges of this relationship.
This could change, but unfortunately this is entirely up to you to make the effort to see things from his point of view and not get caught up in the never-ending circle and pattern of knee-jerk responses. Otherwise, it seems very clear that you'll continue in this same way until you move out as, while under the same roof, you'll keep repeating this same pattern together.
Best,
Admin.
You may be surprised to learn that this could be a good relationship but, only if you are able to accept each other's differences - which clearly isn't possible for either of you. He finds it hard to understand you and your needs and tries to change you to fit his own views. As soon as you show any signs of disagreeing with him it threatens his confidence and so he takes a superior attitude towards you, which then undermines your purpose and pushes you to rebel against anything he may say regardless of whether it could be helpful to you in some way.
This, in turn, results in misunderstandings and angry responses that escalate - perhaps because at least you keep going in order to have the last word in any argument. You both find it hard to recognise the depth of each other's different emotional problems, and as a result of all of this, you may tend to blame each other for the problems in your own lives, especially as long as you live in the same home.
This all makes it hard to take advantage of any of the positive benefits that either of you can bring to the relationship. For e.g., if you were able to find some common interest, this would go a long way to healing the ever-widening rift. Certainly it would help if you could encourage him in any of his own interests as you could give him enthusiastic support in such areas that would help to soften the hard edges of this relationship.
This could change, but unfortunately this is entirely up to you to make the effort to see things from his point of view and not get caught up in the never-ending circle and pattern of knee-jerk responses. Otherwise, it seems very clear that you'll continue in this same way until you move out as, while under the same roof, you'll keep repeating this same pattern together.
Best,
Admin.
"Don't let the illusions of your past or future rob you of the infiniteness of your present." [Unknown]
Re: Bad relationship with father,dissapointment.
I think the rejection he felt from his father was a trauma for him,so i felt the same at childhood from his side too.Only if will leave from parents house will save my life,but this depends on a better salary and a better job i still cannot achieve.
Re: Bad relationship with father,dissapointment.
We are different characters and personalities,we often disagree and there is conflict between us most times,i know deep inside that he wants the good of mine,he uses wrong approaches and behaviors. 
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