Erie, you are very lucky have two brilliant astrologers working fervently on your chart
Admin is so darn good, her explanation sums you up better than I could ever do, sigh, but I shall try to help you as best I can...
North Node is in Capricorn, correct, its has no Rulership, only Planets have Rulerships. We do say that Capricorn naturally reside in the 10th House, but it doesn't Rule the 10th, Saturn does.
We have a simple rule in astrology:
Planets = WHAT
Signs = HOW
Houses = WHERE
I don't know of any online sites that allow you to create your own orbs, I own Solar Fire and so can change orbs etc. to whichever size I want, it sure helps having this freedom.
South Node in Cancer, I don't actually use South Node, I am a Leo, an optimist, and so I rarely look backwards unless I have a very good reason to do so. I am interested in tomorrow so I use North Node a lot, he is a good friend of mine.
So many questions, phew, I will be up all night trying to answer them. I know you are interested but please, slowly slowly, let's slow it down, please don't choke trying to eat so much cake all at once
Father and Mother = Sun and Moon - but not all the time, whoever is the dominant parent in the child's eyes is the Sun. We can, however, see your father in your Sun, he is angry, driven and passionate, perhaps pathologically driven. We see this in your Sun, Mars and Pluto combination in the 3rd House.
Now I am going to try to explain the impact this has on your 3rd House. It is the House of mind, conscious mind, thinking, worrying and processing information consciously. It is Ruled by Mercury, and Mercury rules Virgo and Gemini. Hey, Virgo is on your Ascendant and Gemini is your MC! Just as Amdin said, you have an enormous amount of Mercurial mind here. And what is the weakness of Mercury? Worry, worry and more worry. What do people do drugs for? To stop the mind worrying and racing negative thoughts. What do I spend most of my day treating? Third House - Mercury mind problems.
Mother is much nicer, even though you had difficulties, she sits nicely, powerfully in your 9th House and is the highest Planet, Planet of High Degree. She shines her light over your entire psyche. Mum is nicely aspected, part of the lovely Mystic Rectangle, a very nice easy Pattern, the energy flows and one day you will be a mother and you will shine your light on your beautiful family.
Moon is also part of the Yod, Finger of Fate, or Finger of God. I like Yods, they show those who are inspired to grow spiritually, hey, that's you! You spent your entire life learning about life, and now you are shifting gear to learn about living as a Spiritual Warrior.
You are not a victim of life. I don't want you to consider yourself a victim of your childhood or of your parents faults and failings. Yes, it was a terrible upbringing and you will never do this to your own children, but you have a Yod and a Mystic rectangle for a very good reason.
I think you already know that reason.
I must go and do more readings, it's getting late and my mind is crumbling fast. I must get to them before it crashes.
Please ask more questions, but slowly, Lao Tsu slowly
Homework, why did I call you a Spiritual Warrior?